Sunday, October 15, 2006
Damn it! And my day had just started out nice too!
Okay, I shall calm down. All you flamers listen up!
ONE: It is true that it was my fault that I did not bind my chest.
Did you, over stituation ONE, ever pause to think twice before you actually flame somebody and cricitise their hours of hard work to tatters just because of one single flaw? How would YOU like it if somebody posted a flame directed at you in public for all to see?
Is it so fun for you to flame people? Do you have nothing better to do? Can't you take flaws in your stride? Don't you have an ounce of empathy to put yourself in the shoes of the person you are about to flame? Are you THAT narrow-minded?
For one, it would have been better if you had just made a passing comment that I should bind. And not keep on nitpicking the same old flaw again and again and again and again until the nitpicked person is so pissed that you make another enemy in this world in just a day.
Would you find it thrilling to make enemies out of every cosplayer whom you find flaws with? Would you have liked someone to cricitise your costume, made out of hours of research and hard work, and insult you constantly, picking on the same old wound over and over, until you simply cannot stand it anymore?
For all questions raised above, I answer NO.
I do not flame anyone for the sake of it. I find that it is a waste of time and an injury to the other party's pride and self-esteem when I flame. Flaws exist to be improved on. If you find a flaw, just smile and suggest ways to improve on it. Not sneer and start telling everyone that the particular cosplayer is lousy and such.
Such people are cowards. Damn shitty cowards who don't even have the courage to walk up to the cosplayer and point out the flaws in the costume. Damn cowards who only know how to scrutinise for any possible flaw and harp on them as much as possible.
I do not like to make enemies. I believe every human baing can be a friend with the proper communication. However, I do know that there are circumstances in which people can never warm up to each other due to the lack of understanding.
Please. Whenever you are going to flame somebody, please pause for a second before you hit the keyboard and put yourself in the person's shoes for a minute. How would you like it if you were the one flamed?
I admit that this event, it was my fault that I neglected to bind my chest. But you did not have to keep on harping on it until I flare up or break down. For one, my temper is safely under control, and my mentality is not that weak to cry over petty things like this.
Thanks to the moderators or administrators for locking the thread up. There is no need for more shame to be dished out ruthlessly like what you were doing.
You know who you are. And I'm here to remind you of it.
One word: Empathy.
fire and ice clashed at [8:50 PM]